Far too often people eliminate drugs and alcohol from their lives and just stop there. How many people find a medication that helps but refuse to look at the reasons they need that medication in the first place. They remain in destructive relationships as well as living chaotic and mediocre lives simply because they don’t know what else to do. They put all their hope on the idea that once they’re sober or their mental health issues are treated, life will just magically begin to improve.
We hate to say it, but that’s rarely the case. At least not in the way that you are hoping for.
If you want to really enjoy your new lease on life. If you want to get back on track to making your dreams come true and becoming the person you always wanted to be, you’re gonna have to do a lot more work. But it’s possible. People have done it before and it’s exactly what we’re trying to do for ourselves right now.
Over the last 10 years, we have had the privilege of watching, reading about and talking to numerous people who seem to have figured out the answer to building a good life in recovery. The lessons that we’ve learned might seem obvious, but for one reason or another they’re often ignored or not pursued entirely.
The goal is to break down these lessons into a model for recovery that can help us create more fulfilling lives. Recovery is about a lot more than getting sober. It’s about setting the bar higher and becoming committed to the process. It’s about intention, action, reflection and iteration.
The Recovery Mindset
The Recovery Mindset, is centered around 5 primary objectives for life in recovery. These objectives do not exist in a vacuum and are lifelong endeavors. You don’t complete one and move on to the other. They are goals for which we can all strive to improve on and in turn, build better lives for ourselves.
Managing mental health issues, getting sober and staying on the right path are all massive endeavors. Everybody could use a little help along the way. As long as you have the desire to get better and the willingness to give it all you got, there are plenty of resources available to help. If your issues are related to alcoholism or addiction, Chemical Dependency programs, detoxes, rehabs, 12 step groups, etc are all ready and waiting to help you get sober. If you’re dealing with a mental health crisis, there are plenty of qualified professionals, therapists and doctors dedicated to helping you get (back) on track. The key to success with any of these recovery resources is to choose one (or more) you can fully and truly commit to and sticking to it! Be honest with what you need and don’t be afraid to ask for help. The quality of your life may depend on it.
Our addictions take a toll far beyond our bank accounts, relationships and self-esteem. They ravage our bodies and brains. Before we can even hope to begin creating the life of our dreams, we need to begin fixing ourselves, physically, mentally and socially.
Although perfection is not the goal here, it’s imperative for us to begin addressing the physical, neurological and psychological issues that have contributed to our addictions, or become there result of them.
It’s all about the baby steps. Begin repairing your mind and body through proper diet, nutrition and supplementation. Develop more effective coping skills by learning about the disease of addiction and the underlying emotional and psychological issues that contribute to it.
Think about all the ways we connect with each other these days. There’s Facebook, Twitter, Snapchat, text messaging, Facetime….the list could go on and on. But even with a seemingly endless list of options, it’s not always easy to make new friends in recovery. The importance of surrounding yourself with supportive, healthy and passionate people who are living their lives abstinent from drugs and alcohol cannot be overstated. The people we hang out with have a direct correlation with the strength and quality of our recovery.
At Recovering Minds, our goal is to create a community of healthy, happy and ambitious men/women ready to connect with others. And as you begin your evolution of self-improvement, professional development and better mental/physical health, there’s no telling where new connections might take you.
The journey of recovery is full of ups and downs. One day we’re on the top of a mountain and the next we might find ourselves in the deepest of valleys. We must not let our pasts define who we are. We’ve been given a tremendous opportunity to become the person we always wanted to be.
Our past might harden the terrain, but our experiences make us all the more prepared to climb. Once we’ve gotten a handle on the substances, removed them from our lives and built the solid foundation in recovery….we have already overcome great odds. We mustn’t make the disastrous mistake of stopping there. We can do so much more!
Go back to school. Learn a new skill. Explore your passions. Let loose your inner artist. Turn that great idea into a business. Technology has leveled the playing field. The gatekeepers of past no longer hold the keys.
Remember that you are the most important person in your recovery. This journey isn’t going to be easy but it will be worth it when you begin to enjoy life as you did before the addiction took control. You are an inspiration to all of those that are following the same path.
It’s now time to show the world exactly what a stable, healthy and improved addiction survivor is capable of. We are not lost causes, damaged goods or hopeless cases. Given the right mindset, support and opportunities, we can achieve a level of greatness far beyond societies expectations. We possess unique skills and experiences, when coupled with additional education, skills and support, can turn us into not only productive members of society, but leaders as well.
By sharing our stories, we can help others. By reaching our goals and becoming people worthy of respect and admiration, we can begin to erase the stigma surrounding addiction.